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Hi all- Recently I’ve been into analyzing human behavior (I should have become a sociologist!) and had some questions that I’ve been pondering (SCARY!  ) People have made mention that a lot of ladies on this site/forum want a daughter. I’ve noticed that usually that is the case. Even if the person posting already has a girl and a boy (or a large mix of boys and girls), it seems that usually (not always the case, of course) they want another girl. I’m interested as to why that is? Is one gender “easier” to raise than the other? Are we responding to society in general that seems to “favor” girls? And really, does society favor girls? Has the tide turned? I remember back in the time of Henry the VIII when boys were the popular choice! I keep on trying to figure out why women seem to want girls. I’ve always thought it would be great to have a “mini-me” - like I would somehow feel closer to my child because we are the same gender. Do you ladies that want daughters feel the same way? I’m expecting my first child in June and my DH and I swayed for a girl and we are having a girl. I was telling my DH that next time I plan to sway for a boy and he got irritated and told me that he didn’t want me to sway next time he just wanted to do it natural. I asked about his desire to have a son. He tells me that “Yes, I want a son, but I wouldn’t mind swimming in a sea of estrogen either.” That got me thinking about our next child ----- it won’t be for at least 2 years so I have plenty of time!!! I think I would be ok with a boy or a girl, but because I see a lot of posts on how much people want a daughter even after they already have one (and sometimes they already have a boy too) I get worried that maybe I don’t want a boy, KWIM? Right there, I feel like because of me reading posts on IG, I’m already succumbing to my fear of wanting what “everyone else wants.” Ideally, I would like to raise both genders because I’m interested in the experience of both, but I get scared when everyone keeps on wanted girls. Sometimes I have to wonder if the GD forum makes it worse for people that are having boys because a lot of people that post would like a girl, but then again, these are my feelings and I’m not sure if anyone shares them.
I thinking I’m just thinking out loud, but if anyone has insights, perspectives, thoughts, I’d like to hear them. I’m just interested in a conversation about this from others perspective. 
PS---------I hope this post isn't offensive to anybody or that I don't step on anyone's toes. These are just my observations and I'd like to discuss them with you all!
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