People don't act excited for baby girls, either.

 I keep reading posts on here where boy moms get a ton of negative comments when revealing they are expecting another boy. It seems that many of these moms assume that if you are having a girl, people jump for joy at the news. Well, in my case, they haven't. I have really only gotten a few people (my parents, mainly) who were thrilled at the news that I am having a girl. Most people, when they find out, offer either an "Oh," or don't say ANYTHING. At the most, they might say, "I bet your daughter is excited". And, I honestly have had a few "Were you hoping for another boy?" comments too. SO, I don't think it really matters what gender baby you have...you get responses that are unpleasant. I wish I didn't know what I was having for a variety of reasons, but being able to tell people "I don't know" when they ask would be really, really nice.

Hobbermittens I was exactly the same when I had 3 boys as people make ignorant comments about both genders and people were just not excited when I had DS2 and DS3 it was like a non event! however, when I had first DD it was like a gaining a qualification as if id satisfied societys expectations! then when i had next 2DD I didnt really get any negative comments and people were generally positive about having 2DD although not very excited because they were the same gender - I think in general most women favour having girls over boys - I dont know why because I was so upset not to have a boy with my last 2 pregnancies!

I personally feel its more important to have a DS although as a woman I can understand why its easier to have more in common with a DD!

Of course if people see you with 2DD you always get those dumb 'are you going to try for a boy' comments as if people expect you to have both genders! I soon shut people up when I say - I have older sons! although it does bug me saying that for DH sake as they are not his genetically!  I cant wait for the day when I can say 'we have a DS too' and actually mean it!

Fingers crossed it will be this year!

aniakonda:

I personally feel its more important to have a DS although as a woman I can understand why its easier to have more in common with a DD!

 

I feel the same.  To me it's important because its about the mother son bond for me.  I also think it makes you have a different relationship with your children.  I feel like I have 1 DD she and I will have a certain relationship and if I had a DS this time he and I would have a certain relationship.  Having all of 1 sex its like the jealousy and competition arise and drama.  Trust me I grew up in a house with 3 girls so I know.  

mydominicanbaby - I understand that to have a PP one of each would be perfect to most of us but on a positive note 2 girls is not a bad combination really and to me its second choice to having a PP, I think having 2 boys is worse (in my experience) I dont mean to offend anyone by saying that.

I can understand if you were one of 3 sisters that could influence how you feel - do you think if you had just had the 1 sister it may have been different for you?

I hope you find that 2 girls is not all that bad really even though we would both like a DS

 

yes, I totally agree that if I had 1 sister and 1 brother I would feel differently about it.  I have so many different reasons for wanting a son and it all reflects back to me not having a brother and me having it hard growing up in a house full of girls.  I really wanted to give my daughter what I never had (a brother) and not to mention she has 2 sisters and 1 sister on the way from her dads side (their baby is due in April, a month after me).  Well i hope its not that bad either but I really don't see the good outweighing the bad on this one from what I seen growing up.  It wasn't always bad but there was way too much fighting and attitude in that house.  Everysince I was 16 years old I always wanted a son. 

 I never experienced growing up in a house with boys or raising a boy so i can't really speak on it being better.  I would say that boys do fight like girls but they don't take stuff so personal like girls do and they don't whine and tell all the time like girls do.  Also seeing my friends with their sons I was thinking boys are easier to entertain with video games and sports keeping them occupied for hours.  But again I have never grew up with a boy I was just speaking on what I have seen but I could be wrong.  

aniakonda:

2 girls is not a bad combination really and to me its second choice to having a PP, I think having 2 boys is worse (in my experience) I dont mean to offend anyone by saying that.

 

I totally agree with you!! Well actually 2 girls was my first choice but meh....I have friends with two boys/three boys and two girls, and the boy mums get loads of negative comments whereas the girl mum gets far fewer...two girls don't seem to bother others as much as two boys!!! not that it matters what they think, it was just an observation x

myLittle*i*:

I totally agree with you!! Well actually 2 girls was my first choice but meh....I have friends with two boys/three boys and two girls, and the boy mums get loads of negative comments whereas the girl mum gets far fewer...two girls don't seem to bother others as much as two boys!!! not that it matters what they think, it was just an observation x

totally agree.

Where I live there is a strong preference for the oldest child to be a boy. There are/were 8 of my friends and family who are all due within 6 months of each other. All but 2 are hoping for baby boys and those 2 have got boys as their previous children. My sil and I both have girls (she has 1 I have 2). The other 4 are all pregnant for the first time and have all stated that they would prefer a boy (to whatever degree).

I often read other people posts and think that I obviously live in the wrong area. My friend with 2 boys and I have often compared responses(funnily we are both pregnant now with our 3rd and due the same day as each other) and honestly it really does seem pretty similar.

mydominicanbaby:

 

yes, I totally agree that if I had 1 sister and 1 brother I would feel differently about it.  I have so many different reasons for wanting a son and it all reflects back to me not having a brother and me having it hard growing up in a house full of girls.  I really wanted to give my daughter what I never had (a brother) and not to mention she has 2 sisters and 1 sister on the way from her dads side (their baby is due in April, a month after me).  Well i hope its not that bad either but I really don't see the good outweighing the bad on this one from what I seen growing up.  It wasn't always bad but there was way too much fighting and attitude in that house.  Everysince I was 16 years old I always wanted a son. 

 I never experienced growing up in a house with boys or raising a boy so i can't really speak on it being better.  I would say that boys do fight like girls but they don't take stuff so personal like girls do and they don't whine and tell all the time like girls do.  Also seeing my friends with their sons I was thinking boys are easier to entertain with video games and sports keeping them occupied for hours.  But again I have never grew up with a boy I was just speaking on what I have seen but I could be wrong.  

 

Its something I never really thought mattered so much what your own family make up was - so me being part of a PP I personally know how crap and dull that can be!

I think probaby an ideal family would be 2 DD +2 DS and yep your right girls do whine more and boys are more easy going but to be honest I dont think 2 girls together is bad its when u get the 3 the same gender together as theres always an odd one out as with my 3 older boys!

My advice is always have an even number 2,4 or 6 ! they always have a companion then

x

aniakonda:

 

My advice is always have an even number 2,4 or 6 ! they always have a companion then

x

 I kinda agree with this. Always thought even was better...cause kids always seem to pair off.

I always thought people seemed to favor boys too and girls always get the negative comments....like OMG 3 girls, you're gonna have your hands full...or your DH is gonna be in trouble...just dumb stuff but I see moms of all boys get it too.  I want a son but its not because my friends have them...looking at their sons, I would not one want LOL but I agree there is a different relationship you would most likely have with your sons and daughters and I would love to experience it.

aniakonda:

I personally feel its more important to have a DS

Wow, if the opposite had been posted, you would have had such a backlash. But again, things like this against girls seems ok on this site.

I do not think it's more IMPORTANT to have either gender and find that statement pretty rude.

mydominicanbaby:

Having all of 1 sex its like the jealousy and competition arise and drama.  Trust me I grew up in a house with 3 girls so I know

 I have to disagree with this statement. I believe the competitive siblings are made that way by parents who compare their children with eachother, thus creating a competitive environment. Just because you have the same gendered children it by no means will lead them to compete with eachother. I have seen pp siblings be just a competitive. Its how they were raised not the gender make up in my opinion.

farmerswife:

aniakonda:

I personally feel its more important to have a DS

Wow, if the opposite had been posted, you would have had such a backlash. But again, things like this against girls seems ok on this site.

I do not think it's more IMPORTANT to have either gender and find that statement pretty rude.

I completely understand having a preferance, but I don't see how having a son is ''more imporant'' than having a daughter, or vice versa.

Hobbermittens:

SO, I don't think it really matters what gender baby you have...you get responses that are unpleasant.

I agree. At my sons old school there was a mum with three girls exact same ages as mine. She definately got comments too. 

 

farmerswife:

aniakonda:

I personally feel its more important to have a DS

Wow, if the opposite had been posted, you would have had such a backlash. But again, things like this against girls seems ok on this site.

I do not think it's more IMPORTANT to have either gender and find that statement pretty rude.

 

I dont think she meant having a DS is more importnant than having a DD.  She just meant its important in general and I agree having a DS is more important.  You probably are reading too much into the statement and think it's rude because you have 3 girls.  I have 2 girls and I don't see it rude at all, I agree having a DS is important.  But that's your opinion and that's her opinion.  And I feel like this site is more catered towards girls.  We hardly get rants about having all girls so I think it's high time we start to get some girl GD rants on this site.  I also watched the video from UK and I really upset me how they only had moms with all boys on the show, it's like where are the moms with all girls that really want a boy?  Why are the boy moms being more noticed as if there are no moms with all girls that have GD and want a boy.