What is swaying?

What is swaying?  simple answer is:  to increase your odds of having a certain gender (to swing or sway that direction)

 This question comes up at least 2 times a  year.  Is swaying a guarantee of getting a gender you want?  HECK NO!  If you need 100% (or really 99.99%) then you need pgd.  Is swaying scientifically proven?  Well every study about swaying that says it works is posted in FAQ.  There are numerous studies that say it doesn't work that are not in FAQ.  Why is this?  Its not because we are one sided.  Its because we need one area some where on the Internet where all the studies suggesting swaying may work in one area.  Why even post studies if not everyone agrees?  Because for those us us who can't afford high tech, or can't morally do it; we NEED some kind of hope that there is something we can do.  Even if it is only 1% sway we need that 1%.  Does anyone really know if swaying works?  No, no one does; but there is no harm in trying.  The only harm comes from people who believe it is 100% and there hopes are dashed when they get an opposite.  These people should not sway.  No one should assume it will work for them; only ttc with swaying if you will be ok with an opposite.  The purpose of swaying isn't really to get an opposite gender, but rather to eliminate the what if.  What if swaying does work?  What if we are at the ultrasound about to find out the sex and we then wonder if we could have done anything to change the outcome.  Those of us who are swaying or did sway need to know we did all WE could do to sway. If someone gets an opposite it is not there fault!    There are no mistakes in swaying because in the end how much control do we really have?  So why have an attempts forum?  Because people asked for it.  Because we want to see what others did and let them know that no ones attempts are perfect.  Sure 5 years or so down the road the attempts forum may show that swaying doesn't really sway that much but does that mean people will stop trying to sway?  Highly unlikely.  As long as there is a 1% shot, people will keep swaying.  Swaying has been around sine ancient Egypt and will probably be around long after we are all gone.  So please keep this all in mind.  Those of you who do not believe in swaying' thats ok!  Your a reminder to us all be stay grounded.  Swaying is not a guarantee.

I obviously believe in swaying.  If you need more swaying info please read this

...I agree 100%.  But i don't like when people actually say, "dont sway" it didn't work for me this many times, so it doesn't work.  kwim?  It just bothers me, I can't help it.  I haven't seen this happen recently, but I have seen it on here.  I agree that everyone should be able to have their opinions, and if that means they dont' beleive in swaying and want to say it, that's totally and completely fine.  I just wouldn't want them to go one step further and say that everyone else shouldn't at least try.  But let them put it out there, you're very right in saying that it keeps us balanced.  And thank you again for all your hard work and advice tamara! :0)

 thank you for this reminder-it's important to hear (well,read!)

it would be wonderful to have  everyone be positive.  my hearts breaks every time i read a post of a "failed" (i don't think that-all babies are miracles) sway.  i know it's not always easy to hear, but God does have His reasons.  

and all we can have is hope & faith in what we choose to do or not do-and pray for acceptance of any outcome.

i think when someone posts a warning of what not to do based on their experience, they're trying to prevent others from the pain & suffering they had to go thru.  i don't think it's intended to hurt or discourage-and it stems from their current state of frustration/anger/disbelief 

Well said Sos :0)...it's hard not to take it to heart, but you are very much right!! :)

Well said, Tamara! Thank you for the reminder.

 I was trying to explain this to a friend the other day, I honestly dont know if swaying works I have never tried it before now, but I totally believe God determinds what the gender will be.  with that said I have read about swaying and its nothing crazy so why not try... if it doesnt work then God knew and I know His ways are far better then mine!

 Thanks for posting this tamara its exactly what I was trying to say the other day!!!

 waw! well said, thanks Tamara, i really think everybody have to read this before swaying.. unfortunelty, you are right nothing is 100%, but like you said 

Those of us who are swaying or did sway need to know we did all WE could do to sway. If someone gets an opposite it is not there fault!    There are no mistakes in swaying because in the end how much control do we really have?

it really made me feel better and less stressed

but still, May all of the ladies hear get the babies of their dreams..

Well said Tamara

If there is anything to even slighty change the odds of 50-50%, I will gladly do that.

Thank you!  That is the best explanation I've heard. 

Maybe you could put this post in the yellow portion at the top of the page, so that it never gets bumped down. 

I think people really need to hear this, especially if their sway didn't turn out the way they wanted it to.  And then they come back and tell everyone that it DOES NOT WORK, and that we shouldn't even bother.  I know others have seen those posts, and it makes us feel bad, and sad, and discouraged. 

But, this post IS encouraging.  And even if I don't get what my heart desires, I will be happy that I at least tried to do what I could.

So, thank you Tamara!

I agree 100% very well said!! thanks Tamara.

another14meplz:

I agree 100% very well said!! thanks Tamara.

. I think I will get opposite but I will happy that I tried my best. If I didn't try what if would kill me.