Doubts about swaying

 Anyone blow hot and cold about swaying?  Some days I'm all for it and totally confident that I can do it, other days, like today, I just think oh heck we should just throw caution to the wind and see what happens.

 I really don't know what I want to do.  I keep thinking, if I knew nothing about this then we'd just get on and do and but now that I know what I know I feel like I almost can't not sway if I'd like a little girl.

DH is always saying that he thinks it's not so good to mess with the natural order of things and what if something were to be wrong or go wrong with the swayed for child, would we all feel responsible.  I try to explain it all to him about how all we're doing is increasing our odds but I makes me question things aswell.

 Anyone else out there with up and down days?

Yes. I've decided I don't want to try swaying the first time we TTC. The first time I honestly would be equally happy with either a boy or girl. The second time I'm not sure. If we have a DS first, I'd want a DD next, ideally. And if we have a DD first, I'd kind of also like a DD the second time too, since then they'd be closer in age (I've always missed not having a sister and would really like to have two daughters relatively close in age so they have a chance to have that sisterly bond).

 

I've looked in the swaying forums and it sounds like so much work Especially when you're not even guaranteed to get the gender you swayed for. I feel like if I don't sway and don't get the genders I want, I'll have that nagging feeling that if I would've swayed I could've had that... but then again, if swaying worked for me every time, I'm not sure how I'd feel about "designing" my family in a sense. Like you said, if something turned out wrong with a baby we swayed for I would feel like it was my fault and it wouldn't have happened if I didn't mess around with things.

 

It's a tough decision for me. I go back and forth too!

I go back and forth a lot too wondering if I'm doing the right thing and I keep asking myself why I want another girl anyway.... My boys have been great where my daughter was a handful so I don't even know why I want a girl really.  I think the whole science of if it is very interesting and I'm kind of anxious to see if it works lol.  I'm not into EGS because it's just "too much" for me.  Changing my diet and working on the 7 factors is comfortable for me but that's about as far as I'm willing to take it but then again... I know that I will not suffer from gd either way.

I find myself worrying if I'm even going to be able to get preg without all the cutoffs and phs and no cm.  I think there is a lot of work and obsessing that goes into swaying that I can't commit to wholeheartedly which is why I will likely be on team blue because that's what me and dbf seem to make together lol... I think you just have to listen to your heart and do what's right for you.   

 

 I think it all plays on our insecurities, I mean if we saw 50 successful sways and 5 unsuccessful we will always believe it wont work for us, KWIM. I think that if i put a good effort into it and work really hard and get an opposite then it was just ment to be, that little boy spermie had a lot to go through to get to my eggy.

ESSL1204:

DH is always saying that he thinks it's not so good to mess with the natural order of things and what if something were to be wrong or go wrong with the swayed for child, would we all feel responsible.  I try to explain it all to him about how all we're doing is increasing our odds but I makes me question things aswell.

I look at it this way what happens if i didn't know about swaying and oneday thought wow my nails are really brittle and went on a mad calcium rich diet and  started taking Magnisium to help calcium absorption and, drank cranberry because its good for antioxidants and so on, and happened to have a quicky one night and bang fell pregnant with a DD, you wouldn't think it's messing with the natural order of things then it would merely be a coincidence. 

If you dont sway next time and have an undesired gender then you'll kick yourself for not trying.

 

 I back on board today - crazy times.  DH was a bit more enthusiastic yesterday evening and even agreed to let me test his boys pH.  I can't beleive it, he said no doctors office cup deposits though so I'll have to hope that a depsoit elsewhere will be alright!!!

i think a lot of us can relate. Some days I think there's no way I'll get a dd if I don't put my all into it and go EGS. Then I worry that maybe I am pushing God's will and not allowing what should be, be. But then I think about how God designed our bodies so complex and that it's amazing that we now know more about our bodies than ever...So yes, I go back and forth. But I am interested in our "science experiment" when we are ready to start trying. The science behind the sway techniques is fascinating. Sigh, I wish we could have a little window into the future to see what lay in store. :P

Yes!  We plan to ttc in July.  I am enthusiastic about swaying some days and afraid it's a waste of my time other days.  It is a total diet change for me (prob why I have 2 boys) and alot of work temping, pinpointing O, and charting.  I want 3 (possibly 4?) children anyways but would love to have a dd.  I'm sure I will end up swaying but I think I'm just doubting it sometimes because I'm convinced I will have all boys.

prayingforaprincess2010:

I'm sure I will end up swaying but I think I'm just doubting it sometimes because I'm convinced I will have all boys.

YEAH THAT!

Why is it we get so negative about our chances? I see other women all over this board who successfully conceived a girl after two boys, but I just can't believe it will happen for me.

So yeah, I have trouble getting excited about the sway. I feel like if I go all-out and still get a boy I will be ticked off that I put so much time and energy and effort into something that didn't work. On the other hand if we don't do it and we get a boy I will be angry with myself for not trying. 

I'm all for it today, whereas yesterday I was totally going to just give it up. Today it occurred to me that if we did an EGS and still got another boy, at least I would know the little sonofagun had to WORK to get there! lol of course I would love him just like my other boys but it is taking me a while to get to a place where I feel at peace about a third boy. 

 

Sunrise:

prayingforaprincess2010:

I'm sure I will end up swaying but I think I'm just doubting it sometimes because I'm convinced I will have all boys.

YEAH THAT!

Why is it we get so negative about our chances? I see other women all over this board who successfully conceived a girl after two boys, but I just can't believe it will happen for me.

So yeah, I have trouble getting excited about the sway. I feel like if I go all-out and still get a boy I will be ticked off that I put so much time and energy and effort into something that didn't work. On the other hand if we don't do it and we get a boy I will be angry with myself for not trying. 

I'm all for it today, whereas yesterday I was totally going to just give it up. Today it occurred to me that if we did an EGS and still got another boy, at least I would know the little sonofagun had to WORK to get there! lol of course I would love him just like my other boys but it is taking me a while to get to a place where I feel at peace about a third boy. 

 

I think it's just a defense mechanism so I won't get too disappointed if we have ds3?  I am finally at peace with having boy #3 if it happens.  I wanted 3 or 4 children anyways. I plan to sway even though it is going to be very hard for me because the diet is awful and no breakfast sux..  At least I'll know we tried.  Good luck

prayingforaprincess2010:

Sunrise:

prayingforaprincess2010:

I'm sure I will end up swaying but I think I'm just doubting it sometimes because I'm convinced I will have all boys.

YEAH THAT!

Why is it we get so negative about our chances? I see other women all over this board who successfully conceived a girl after two boys, but I just can't believe it will happen for me.

So yeah, I have trouble getting excited about the sway. I feel like if I go all-out and still get a boy I will be ticked off that I put so much time and energy and effort into something that didn't work. On the other hand if we don't do it and we get a boy I will be angry with myself for not trying. 

I'm all for it today, whereas yesterday I was totally going to just give it up. Today it occurred to me that if we did an EGS and still got another boy, at least I would know the little sonofagun had to WORK to get there! lol of course I would love him just like my other boys but it is taking me a while to get to a place where I feel at peace about a third boy. 

 

I think it's just a defense mechanism so I won't get too disappointed if we have ds3?  I am finally at peace with having boy #3 if it happens.  I wanted 3 or 4 children anyways. I plan to sway even though it is going to be very hard for me because the diet is awful and no breakfast sux..  At least I'll know we tried.  Good luck

Hey, I know how you ladies feel i have 4 boys and am going ttc girl next month. I always wanted 4 kids so i just figured one of them would be a girl, turns out i was wrong... So then i went thru "no more kids"for a while but then when DS #4 turned one i totally changed and wanted another one. I did a shettles cut off with out the diet for DS#4 and totally put 100% into the method so was very shocked when i was told it was another boy. I am more at peace with another boy now but if i don't sway 100% with supps, diets etc i will kick myself forever wondering if it would have worked. How much easier would it be if someone could tell us whether it will work. I've read alot of successfull sways on here but also alot of unsuccessfull sways as well.....

my4beautifulsons:

prayingforaprincess2010:

Sunrise:

prayingforaprincess2010:

I'm sure I will end up swaying but I think I'm just doubting it sometimes because I'm convinced I will have all boys.

YEAH THAT!

Why is it we get so negative about our chances? I see other women all over this board who successfully conceived a girl after two boys, but I just can't believe it will happen for me.

So yeah, I have trouble getting excited about the sway. I feel like if I go all-out and still get a boy I will be ticked off that I put so much time and energy and effort into something that didn't work. On the other hand if we don't do it and we get a boy I will be angry with myself for not trying. 

I'm all for it today, whereas yesterday I was totally going to just give it up. Today it occurred to me that if we did an EGS and still got another boy, at least I would know the little sonofagun had to WORK to get there! lol of course I would love him just like my other boys but it is taking me a while to get to a place where I feel at peace about a third boy. 

 

I think it's just a defense mechanism so I won't get too disappointed if we have ds3?  I am finally at peace with having boy #3 if it happens.  I wanted 3 or 4 children anyways. I plan to sway even though it is going to be very hard for me because the diet is awful and no breakfast sux..  At least I'll know we tried.  Good luck

Hey, I know how you ladies feel i have 4 boys and am going ttc girl next month. I always wanted 4 kids so i just figured one of them would be a girl, turns out i was wrong... So then i went thru "no more kids"for a while but then when DS #4 turned one i totally changed and wanted another one. I did a shettles cut off with out the diet for DS#4 and totally put 100% into the method so was very shocked when i was told it was another boy. I am more at peace with another boy now but if i don't sway 100% with supps, diets etc i will kick myself forever wondering if it would have worked. How much easier would it be if someone could tell us whether it will work. I've read alot of successfull sways on here but also alot of unsuccessfull sways as well.....

At least you are still young.  I'm 37 so I feel like this is the clock is ticking fast for my to ttc a girl.  We will be swaying hard but I still have alot of doubts that I will ever have a girl.

Good luck!! Keep us posted

Yeh i guess having my oldest two at a young age was not such a bad idea as i'm still only early 30's and hopefully i have a few years up my sleeve. That doesn't mean i will keep going if i don't get a girl this time.

This is definately our last baby so if it's a healthy boy that's great and if we get a girl then that's an added bonus.

I'm still very skeptical......

Good luck with your journey too.

 I'll worry about swaying for the opposite after I have my first child. PP would be nice, but second choice would be .

Yes sometimes! I am still not sure what to do when it actually comes time to TTC. I spoke to my DH and he thinks it's bizarre FULL STOP and whether you "sway" or not you'll get what you get either way, which in one sense I do believe, but my response was "well why not try it then, if you dont think its going to matter anyway?" to which he thought and agreed he would try to sway if I wanted to. But at the same time, would I be disappointed that I didn't naturally make both sexes if I did get my 'one of each'? Or if it was the opposite would I be more disappointed that I tried and failed? I'm not sure.

TBH I do think I'll try but probably a half hearted try, probably just suppliments and diet. I know I won't have GD either way, its just what we'd like.

ESSL1204:

I try to explain it all to him about how all we're doing is increasing our odds but I makes me question things aswell.

 Anyone else out there with up and down days?

Know what, I read sway attempts that worked and it makes me feel confident and positive that I too will get my DD - I read failed attempts and I break out into a cold sweat and panic that I too will be typing out a failed attempt next time.

Honestly ....... I don't think swaying gives us any better than an additional 10% chance of getting the gender of our choice BUT I think it does help instill a little POSITIVE THINKING and there's a lot to be said for a bit of positive thinking in my book. I believe that swaying makes us feel like we are doing EVERYTHING WE CAN to try to steer our destinies in the direction we pray they will go - and as almost every person on this site will agree, if we don't sway and get another boy / another girl ..... wouldn't we wonder "what if ......".

I honestly believe that I have to sway, even though deep down I am unsure of the impact it has - if I don't, this is the last baby - my last chance of a DD and I will kick myself forever!