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I have just found out that my fifth and final baby is most definitely another boy.  We have four lovely boys and I know once he is here I will love him the same but I am so very very sad.

We tried Artificial Insemination to increase our chances of having at girl (we were told an 80% girl 20%boy) and can't believe that of that small minority group a boy still got in there.

 My dreams of a little girl are gone now and I am having trouble dealing with it.

My Husband is also very upset but he seems better able to deal with it.  I just don't want to talk to any of my family or his and don't know how to deal with the "Oh well at least he's healthy".

Has anyone got ideas on getting past this?  I know that it shall take time.

Tania

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take it one day at a time...find ways to enjoy having 5 boys buy boy stuff ect...or if that hurts buy cute neutral stuff...I am sorry you didnt hear pink.Heartbroken


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So sorry you are going through this; GD is SO difficult. Did you use Microsort for the IUI?

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 BIG hugs to you, I would probably not share anything with family members until I was good and ready. Don't even answer the phone if you can't cope with the conversation. As for how to deal maybe focusing on yourself would help, donig things for you only? Going for a pedicure...or going out with a girlfriend? And maybe making a few dates with your DH to focus on your marriage and yourslef instead of just thinking about your motherhood-not trying to deny your motherhood but simply trying to celebrate other facets of your life? just an idea.

 

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Sorry we are not very sure of the terminology they "spun and washed" and sorted the sperm and advised that they were putting 80% girl and 20% boy back in.  In Australia you are not allowed to gender select so these were the best odds they could help us with.

Tania

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TheJohnsons&4Boys:
they "spun and washed" and sorted the sperm and advised that they were putting 80% girl and 20% boy back in. 

That has to be a version of Microsort. A regular IUI isn't sorted by gender.

Anyway, so sorry. Especially after a 80% sort - how can you not get your hopes up? Crushing.

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I am sorry you didn't get your girl. That must be really hard, especially when you tried the sperm sorting and everything. Maybe this won't be comforting, but it seems like your baby beat some pretty big odds to be here--he will probably be a really special little guy.Happy

 

 

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I am sorry you didn't get your girl. That must be really hard, especially when you tried the sperm sorting and everything. Maybe this won't be comforting, but it seems like your baby beat some pretty big odds to be here--he will probably be a really special little guy.Happy

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I am so sorry you are going through this. Gender disappointment is SO hard :(

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I am so sorry.  I wish I could help you on getting past this, but I am still struggling and my "last" baby just turned one.  I think it just takes time and letting yourself grieve and get it all out.

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Thanks everyone for your messages it just helps to be able to read and see that others are feeling the same way.  I really don't have anyone to talk to and appreciate that this forum is here to get some of this anger and sadness out.

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  I am so sorry!!!  I think you did the Erickson Method...that is sperm washing.   I am sorry again....I know how you feelSad Flower

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I understand completely - I'm in the same state but a couple of boys less than you.   Hoping these feelings will fizzle but there's a horrible finality to it all isn't there...

 

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twoavocados:
As for how to deal maybe focusing on yourself would help, donig things for you only? Going for a pedicure...or going out with a girlfriend? And maybe making a few dates with your DH to focus on your marriage and yourslef instead of just thinking about your motherhood-not trying to deny your motherhood but simply trying to celebrate other facets of your life?

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I'm so sorry Tania. I've just discovered that I'm pregnant with number 5 and I know I'll be in the same position as you in a few months time. This baby wasn't planned and I'm just feeling so low at the thought of 5 boys. The only thing that pulls me through in the most dire of moments is just realising that God is the only one who decides my life path. I may have had other plans for my life, but God was always going to have His way. You gave it your best shot at having a girl so you need to find peace in that somehow. This little boy of yours beat those odds to be here so he was obviously meant to be. I don't know why you and I (and so many others who are desperate!) aren't meant to have girls, and it doesn't seem fair. I'm horrified at the thought of having this sadness forever as this is definitely my last (natural) baby...DH is having the snip before the birth. And I'm sure you feel the same. All we can do is cherish the little gifts we were given and just 'go with the flow' of life. My only hope at the minute is adopting a little girl in the future and that is what keeps me going. Would that be an option for you??

 

 
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