It's funny, DS#1 seems the most unphased by the arrival of a boy, he's happy but I think it will probably be a while before he reaps the benefits of a brother. Thanks for reminding me of this too-I am the closest to my mom of all my four sisters and that relationship (with my mtoher) isn't necvessarily healthy, as you can see from my posts some of it is a bit toxic, so maybe again this is a lot about what I have come to know about family dynamics from my own family rather than what is true, if you KWIM.