People don't act excited for baby girls, either.

farmerswife:

mydominicanbaby:

Having all of 1 sex its like the jealousy and competition arise and drama.  Trust me I grew up in a house with 3 girls so I know

 I have to disagree with this statement. I believe the competitive siblings are made that way by parents who compare their children with eachother, thus creating a competitive environment. Just because you have the same gendered children it by no means will lead them to compete with eachother. I have seen pp siblings be just a competitive. Its how they were raised not the gender make up in my opinion.

You can disagree but my opinion still stands.  I grew up in a house with all girls so I know how it is.  Girls are alot of more jealous.  I rarely see a brother jealous of his sister.  I am not saying it isn't possible but its less likely.  Now I can see a sister being jealous over her brother but it would be because he get more attention than she does or something small.  Women can be very emotional and jealous over one another that's why I made that statement.  As I said, I have sisters and 1 of them is obviously jealous.  I am sure if she was a brother that wouldn't be the case. 

one day my prince will come:

Where I live there is a strong preference for the oldest child to be a boy. There are/were 8 of my friends and family who are all due within 6 months of each other. All but 2 are hoping for baby boys and those 2 have got boys as their previous children. My sil and I both have girls (she has 1 I have 2). The other 4 are all pregnant for the first time and have all stated that they would prefer a boy (to whatever degree).

I often read other people posts and think that I obviously live in the wrong area. My friend with 2 boys and I have often compared responses(funnily we are both pregnant now with our 3rd and due the same day as each other) and honestly it really does seem pretty similar.

HAHA!  We must live in the same area because it's like that where I live as well.  Boys are highly preferred over girls in my area.  That's why when I came to this site and saw that there are people that actually want girls I was shocked and a little releaved.  Although I still prefer a boy.

Hobbermittens:

 I keep reading posts on here where boy moms get a ton of negative comments when revealing they are expecting another boy. It seems that many of these moms assume that if you are having a girl, people jump for joy at the news. Well, in my case, they haven't. I have really only gotten a few people (my parents, mainly) who were thrilled at the news that I am having a girl. Most people, when they find out, offer either an "Oh," or don't say ANYTHING. At the most, they might say, "I bet your daughter is excited". And, I honestly have had a few "Were you hoping for another boy?" comments too. SO, I don't think it really matters what gender baby you have...you get responses that are unpleasant. I wish I didn't know what I was having for a variety of reasons, but being able to tell people "I don't know" when they ask would be really, really nice.

You see it's women like you who put us who have multiple boys in our place.  We need to hear this from time to time.  Because I know I sometimes think it's only having boys that's gets negative attention.

I do understand what you mean about the responses.  The "I don't know" thing (about gender) doesn't really work either.  People will still comment.

Someone said in one of the threads, it's almost like someone just has to say something in response to the baby.  And she equated it to being as minimal as "nice weather we're having".   I'm trying to remember this in my own case.

Thanks for the thread.

mydominicanbaby:

farmerswife:

aniakonda:

I personally feel its more important to have a DS

Wow, if the opposite had been posted, you would have had such a backlash. But again, things like this against girls seems ok on this site.

I do not think it's more IMPORTANT to have either gender and find that statement pretty rude.

 

I dont think she meant having a DS is more importnant than having a DD.  She just meant its important in general and I agree having a DS is more important.  You probably are reading too much into the statement and think it's rude because you have 3 girls.  I have 2 girls and I don't see it rude at all, I agree having a DS is important.  But that's your opinion and that's her opinion.  And I feel like this site is more catered towards girls.  We hardly get rants about having all girls so I think it's high time we start to get some girl GD rants on this site.  I also watched the video from UK and I really upset me how they only had moms with all boys on the show, it's like where are the moms with all girls that really want a boy?  Why are the boy moms being more noticed as if there are no moms with all girls that have GD and want a boy.

Thanks for understanding and explaining the obvious mydominicanbaby - thats the reason I put ' I pesonally' in my statement and everyone on this forum has a preference at some time - It baffles me why picky sensitive people bother coming on here if they cant apprecate other peoples point of view.....say no more

I personally think in regards to how competitive siblings are it really does come down a lot to personality, parenting and lots of other factors other then gender. I don't think that girls are inherently more competitve then boys (in my personal experiences it is more often the opposite or in a more overt way at least). 

I was 1 of 4 sisters with a brother bang smack in the middle of us.

For me I have always wanted both boys and girls. I liked the romantic idea of the big brother who watches out for his little sister/s. Also coming from a girl heavy family (dh family is also girl heavey) a boy always seemed so much less attainable. I never doubted I would have girls (even before being pregnant) but feared that I would never have a son. 

aniakonda:

It baffles me why picky sensitive people bother coming on here if they cant apprecate other peoples point of view.....say no more

I'm sorry but I was also just expressing my point of view, it is just different from yours. Maybe you need to appreciate that

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farmerswife:

aniakonda:

It baffles me why picky sensitive people bother coming on here if they cant apprecate other peoples point of view.....say no more

I'm sorry but I was also just expressing my point of view, it is just different from yours. Maybe you need to appreciate that

No you wasnt  and it wast a 'point of view'- you were criticising and attacking me personally and I think your comments were not called for and then sending me a daft insulting PM wasnt either - this forum isnt for arguing, its for listening to other peoples points of view and if you dont agree of course say your point of view but dont start launching personal attacks on people - that isnt constructive and wont win you many friends!

I dont have time for childish behaviour so I wont be entering into a further bickering match about this....end of story

I agree with this for the most part. I don't recall anyone getting overly excited for any one of my DDs. This third one, I think a lot of people who care about me forced themselves to act happy about it, but I think they assumed we surely wanted a son (no one except my husband knew about my GD). It seems to me everyone thinks having a boy is something really special- around here anyway, but perhaps perception is reality and our reality on here is skewed by GD.